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How to make your first swinger experience a good one!

How to make your first swinger experience a good one!

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Hopefully you’ve followed all the steps laid out in previous articles and are ready for your first wife swapping encounter. You took your time when looking for couples. You send plenty of emails, met with a few in person, and settled on one couple that worked for both of you. You and your wife are excited and nervous at the prospect of that first encounter and you want to make sure it goes well. Hopefully this article on the final step in the process will soothe some of your worries and make it easy.It’s been shown that communication between the swing lifestyle couples can calm most fears. The only question is what you’re supposed to communicate about. The short is answer is everything!

 

The long answer offers a little more detail. First you need to communicate with each other about what you’re willing to do. Do you and your wife want to go full wife swap on your first time out (that means everything including intercourse) or do you want to set a hard limit on your contact? Perhaps you’d like to stick to soft swap (everything but penetration) for the first time around. There’s still plenty of fun to be had with that (kissing, fingering, fondling, breast play, blowjobs, cunnilingus) and orgasms will be had by all. In fact, skipping the sex the first time around can enhance the erotic and intimate nature of the whole proceedings and create an even greater desire for when you finally go full swap. Perhaps you should consider it. As with the previous steps, patience is always a good thing and you can take your time in the planning stages of your first wife swapping event as you work out the details with your wife.Once you’ve settled on what the two of you are willing to do it’s time to make contact with your swing lifestyle couple of choice and see what they’re willing to do.

 

These conversations aren’t always easy if you don’t have much experience, but you’ll find that if you keep the lines of communication open you’ll eventually come to a reasonable agreement. If they want to go full swap and you’re only interested in soft swap they will likely agree to it because they know you’ll go full eventually, just like almost every swinger does. Hopefully you’ve discussed even the small details with your wife and can communicate them with your new swinging friends. Are you okay with ass play of any kind or rimjobs? Is tongue kissing okay or should it be lips only? Is fingering and fondling of any area of the body okay? Is there anything you’re keeping for you as a couple or is anything okay? Some couples prefer to keep a particular position or sexual activity just for them to keep it special. You might want to think about it or at least keep something off limits the first time around just in case you want it for yourselves later.Before you do any of the logistical date planning you should have the rules worked out. A lack of clarity on those points is the most common source of anxiety with wife swapping couples so once they’re ironed out the worries tend to float away and all parties involved can concentrate on the fun they’re going to have.First time wife swapping couples almost never just jump right into the bedroom. An activity of some sort comes first. It tends to be as simple as dinner and a glass of wine with the four of you and that’s often more than enough to get the ball rolling on a night of pleasure. It helps to break the ice by simply being friendly with each other. Tell stories of how you met and fell in love, talk about the fun vacations you’ve been on, etc. Stay away from divisive topics like politics and religion though.

That’s a great way to kill the night before it starts. It’s also wise not to talk about sex. Everyone is thinking about it but bringing it up can really put the brakes on since everyone knows you’ll be having sex soon enough and it’s hard not to have that in your head once you’re talking sex. You can pour another glass of wine for everyone and head out to the living room after dinner. Sit by your new partner and continue the conversations. Hopefully things will naturally evolve to you talking to your new partners and almost ignoring each other. Gentle touches are encouraged and when the moment feels right you can initiate a kiss. It’s what you’re there for and everyone knows it so don’t be afraid to go for it.

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